The Best Ways to Fight With Your Partner
Back in the 1980s, psychologists John Gottman and Robert Levenson set up their “Love Lab” at the University of Washington to discover why some relationships thrive while others fall apart.
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Why Emotional Intelligence Is Probably Not as Important as You Think
Picture this. You're trying to explain why you're disappointed, not angry. But can you actually spell out the difference? If you struggled with doing so, you’re absolutely not alone. But that’s exactly what emotional intelligence (EI) helps you with. This exercise gets right to the heart of EI - a concept praised in top leadership journals and continuously promoted in self-help b$ development experts. And even if you’ve certainly heard of EI, its meaning and importance might not be entirely clear. And no wonder: the research on emotional intelligence is fragmented, and many different models have been proposed to conceptualize it.
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Silencing Your Inner Self-Critic, Compassionately
When do you turn on yourself most harshly? In social situations? At work? In your relationships? I first encountered the idea of self-compassion a few years ago. At the time, I was sceptical. Why should we treat ourselves with empathy when we fail or make mistakes? Wouldn’t that make us lazy?
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